For those of us you who are also perfectionists, you know
the agony of slowly tapping out words and tediously editing to ensure that your
words are perfectly polished. Some of us extend our need for each word to be
exact to our conversations with other people.
We have our reasons.
As wielders of words,
we know their power. The more precise your words, the better your meaning will
be conveyed. By putting out perfectly polished words, you get to choose exactly
the message given to others without misunderstanding or misleading anyone.
But sometimes we over-edit. Sometimes the message we convey to others is so precise it says little
at all and loses its impact.
Consider some of Jesus’ words:
“You unbelieving generation,” Jesus
replied, “how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with
you? Bring the boy to me.” –Mark 9:19
What a way to win people over, right? These raw words of
Jesus imply His (Godly) frustration with humans living according to their human
nature. He doesn’t find a kind, roundabout way to politely suggest that
disbelief has implications.
But Jesus told him, “Follow me,
and let the dead bury their own dead.” –Matthew 8:22
Ouch. Insensitive. Demanding. Bossy. We could read a lot
into these words, and surely some who heard such phrases did.
Jesus wept. –John 11:35
It wasn’t what He spoke, but that He didn’t. Imagine how
puzzling it must have been to see the Lord of the universe, the great Teacher,
weep instead of comforting others and explaining that just in just minutes He
would raise His friend from the dead.
I praise you, Father, Lord of heaven and
earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and learned, and
revealed them to little children. Yes, Father, for this is what you were
pleased to do. –Luke 10:21
Polished words are often used to impress, control, and influence
the wise and the learned. Jesus’ words were for the little children. Children could
understand His frustration and His clear directive to follow Him and switch
from a perspective of death and this world to one of eternal life.
A child
knows what it is to weep rather than find “the right words” because indeed,
weeping with others is often just as comforting.
The difficulty with
speaking and writing without all the polish is that people might see through
the words.
Your readers might see through the raw words and witness a
struggle you face right now instead of an issue you’ve resolved and are sharing
“learned” insights about. Friends might find that your advice comes from a
place of imperfection and, while you want it to be right, might be skewed or
incomplete.
You might find
yourself vulnerable, as we are vulnerable when we talk with children.
Little people’s words aren’t polished. Their questions aren’t polite. The
implications they read and lessons they pick up often mirror not what you so
carefully explained but what was going on in your heart when you explained it.
What if like Jesus you let people see through to what you’re
feeling right now, not just your tidied-up, lesson-learned analysis? Could you
set aside control and your spotless reputation?
Because here’s what
Jesus’s unpolished, raw words did that our cleaned up, decorated words often
do not: pointed right to God’s heart.
Rather than marking
out each step as if it must be understood and handled, we could fix our eyes on the perfect
author who writes even the messes into His plot.
Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith –Hebrews 12:2
This post is being shared on: #TestimonyTuesday, #RaRaLinkup, Intentionally Pursuing,Titus2sday, and Thought-Provoking Thursday.
I struggle with perfectionism too. I can completely relate. You are right. If we just let our raw words come through it will point right to Jesus.
ReplyDeleteHe is the only one capable of perfection anyway, right? : )
DeleteSo crazy we both wrote about perfectionists - yet came at it from two different angles. I can SO relate to the illustration of writing, editing, rewording, keeping quiet because of my words being misconstrued! Arg, the life of a perfectionist. And yet, God has a reason for making us this way, and He can use us to point to His heart as well. Great post, love the scriptures you used.
ReplyDeleteThanks Ruthie! I love when the Lord reinforces something He is teaching -like by having me read your post on the same topic! Yes He does! Thanks for reading : ) Blessings!
DeleteI love how through our mistakes, we can always be led right back to Jesus. I found you at Intentional Tuesday :)
ReplyDeleteAmen! Me too! : ) Blessings!
DeleteBethany, you are so right. We have so much to learn about becoming as little children ... sharing words from the heart and pointing to God's heart. Thank you, Bethany, for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )
ReplyDeleteFunny, since we all were little children once, haha : ) Thanks for reading and blessings!
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